Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Quote of the Day

The word narcissism in general means "self-worship."  Consequently, unhealthy narcissism is a form of claiming too much for the self, whether we are taking resources from others, or indulging too much pride in our talents or achievements.  Perhaps we have had fortunate circumstances in business, family position, beauty, or other inherent gifts from God or the natural world.  While healthy narcissism does involve our ability to feel proud of special accomplishments and to take pleasure in our abilities, we generally know that heady feeling when we indulge in undue pride, a tendency that leads to self aggrandizement.  The moment we claim more credit for ourselves than we deserve, we participate in the illusion of "special ownership" or "entitlement" and head towards the dead-end of toxic narcissism.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 166

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Quote of the Day

Force does not work the way its advocates think in fact it does.  It does not, for example, reveal to the victim the strength of the adversary.  On the contrary, it reveals the weakness, even the panic of the adversary and this revelation invests the victim with patience.

-- James Baldwin, I Am Not Your Negro, p. 91

Monday, March 27, 2017

Quote of the Day

With a surface presentation that is often captivating, we are drawn to the narcissist.  Initially our feelings of attraction, admiration, or intimidation become the emotional state that holds us spellbound.  Eventually, however, the negative influences of the narcissist erode our trust and confidence inducing a state of emotional paralysis.  And the length of time that we struggle to find our way out of the narcissist's world can vary from days -- to years -- to a whole lifetime.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 165-166

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Quote of the Day

When the Israelis pick up guns, or the Poles, or the Irish, or any white man in the world says "give me liberty, or give me death," the entire white world applauds.  When a black man says exactly the same thing, word for word, he is judged a criminal and treated like one and everything possible is done to make an example of this bad nigger, so there won't be any more like him.

-- James Baldwin, I Am Not Your Negro, p. 81-82

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Quote of the Day

At the extreme end of the continuum, we see what happens when the malignant narcissist takes power.  These individuals often begin as the charismatic autocratic leader who can influence masses of people to abuse and violate the rights and/or boundaries of other groups or nations.  As free thinkers in a democratic society, we must learn to recognize and resist unhealthy narcissism in others and ourselves if we are to avoid and prevent the toxic and infectious nature of such movements.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 164

Friday, March 24, 2017

Quote of the Day

It is impossible to accept the premise of the story [featured in the film The Defiant Ones], a premise based on the profound American misunderstanding of the nature of the hatred between black and white.  The root of the black man's hatred is rage, and he does not so much hate white men as simply wants them out of his way, and more than that, out of his children's way.  The root of the white man's hatred is terror, a bottomless and nameless terror, which focuses on this dread figure, an entity which lives only in his mind.

-- James Baldwin, I Am Not Your Negro, p. 60

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Quote of the Day

Boundary setting skills with the narcissist is equal to self-preservation when it comes to your career, and the potential negative impact to your self-esteem.

-- Eleanor D. Payson, The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, p. 163